But that’s a long way off. At the moment Kareena is just happy being with Saif. “He may appear to be very volatile and undecided, just like me. But actually he takes all the right decisions on my behalf. He’s totally into his books while I love films. I keep him clued in to what’s happening in the industry. Right now we both want to see Ghajini before we leave for our holiday. We’re both Aamir fans. After Ghajini I think the next film Saif will see will be my 3 Idiots. And this time it won’t be for Aamir.”

When you started your career, you had this huge controversy about leaving Kaho Na Pyaar Hai and opting for Refugee instead. Was that choice right for you?
I think it’s the best thing that happened because I got known as an actress from my first film. It was a role, which was not a contemporary launch break, where you are looking beautiful and stuff. The role was performance driven. And though I was not launched with Hrithik, I did four films after that with him. I did get launched with Abhishek, irrespective of whatever issues are there today, and that’s engraved for life, it’s on screen now that I was launched with him and I would regard that as a very special moment in my life, so to me it was again another great decision I took.

Talking about Abhishek, you sister’s choice impacted your life, still impacts your life in terms of work. How cool are you with that?
Like I said it’s never been a pitfall if I was not part of a film because he never wanted me to be a part of it, I think I would thank him for that, because its fine if he doesn’t want to work with me because I don’t want any actor to be uncomfortable. Acting is a profession in which you have to be very comfortable with each other. It’s sad that it had to reach this point but in my life there’s still room for Abhishek, I would say that quite openly that there’s still room for him. I don’t know in what way he is uncomfortable, but it’s sad, because films will come and films will go, but I just wish this little bit of room was still left in his heart for me.

You have never thought of picking up the phone and just calling him up. You must have been talking to him a lot at one time?
But if someone is uncomfortable, then I will also be uncomfortable, so its best left at that, but of course in my heart there will always be a door open.

Will this work if Saif offers you a role too?
Today if Saif offers me a role for his production and I am not happy with it, I will use my mind and I will say ‘it’s not up to the mark, Saif’. I will not make the mistake of following my heart and doing it no matter what I have done in the past.

You’ve been through adolescent romance and are now in a more mature one. How do they compare?
I think every relationship prepares you for your final destination and I think every relationship has been a preparation. I have learnt a lot of things from my relationships. If it doesn’t work out then that is God’s wish and that is destiny, which I have completely come to terms with.

You turned vegetarian in your last relationship. Was it because you loved the person or did you choose to become a vegetarian?
I chose to and that is validated by the fact that I am still one in spite of me being with a man who is a hard-core non-vegetarian, who at every given step would be eating his steak and his roast chicken. I did it completely because I believed in it. It’s because of a book I read and I completely believe in. Nobody has put a dagger to my head. I’ve learnt something from Shahid and that’s something that Saif appreciates and in fact Saif always tells me "Listen, if now you go back to being a non vegetarian, I’ll loose faith in you as a person." I’ve traveled the word with Saif and he’s sat across thousands of tables from me and I’ve stuck to my French fries even though I have to put on a kilo on my scale, but I would not go for the roast chicken.

Going vegetarian changed your body type too...
I think it’s a mix of that as well as a lot of yoga, which also just changed my personality.